Sunday, March 30, 2014

Facebook Frenemies



Negative people will suck the life out of you.

There comes a time in your life where you have to take an inventory of the people around you and decide who is sucking you dry and who actually gives a crap about you.  Some individuals live and breath melancholy, sadness, helplessness and drama. Life is short. It's time to cut down the fruitless trees and dead branches.

If you find yourself surrounded by fake friends, relatives and acquaintances then ask yourself: What purpose do these people serve in your life? Do they help you or do they hinder you? Do they make you feel bad about yourself? Do they feed off of you? Do they ask constantly for your help and advice but never actually take it? Do they 'like' or 'comment' on any of the important stuff going on in your life?

My favorite kind of negativity comes from Frenemies. What's a frenemy? Answer: "an enemy disguised as a friend". These people may be Facebook friends, or real life friends, or both... but when it comes to supporting you or participating in your life they're basically a 'no show'. They will smile to your face and make like they really like you and support your goals in person, but when push comes to shove they're no where to be found. It leaves you with the feeling like they're actually 'out to get you' and couldn't care less.

These individuals also talk shit behind everyone's back. Here's a good rule of thumb: If you're friends with someone who gossips nonstop about other people, chances are they gossip about you behind your back as well. It's a hard pill to swallow, but it's the truth.

Or maybe they're part of a "Facebook clique".  What's a 'Facebook clique' you ask??? Well, it's when a Facebook "friend" only "likes" or "comments" on certain people's Facebook statuses. They never give a flying crap about what you write or your status updates... except for members of their own 'clique'. If anyone from their Facebook 'clique' writes something (this could be as stupid and insignificant as "Having a great day" or "At Milestones with the girls") they will not only "like" it, but make stupid ass remarks like, "Awesome!" or "Great!". Yet, as their Facebook friend, but being out of their 'clique', you could write something as significant like "I just won $1 million dollars!!" or "I just gave birth today" and they would neither 'like' it or 'comment' on it. This makes them a Facebook Frenemy.

Life is short. If you feel like the people in your life are bringing you down, take a step back. Review the situation. Are these people making you feel bad? Targeting you?  Instead of trying to befriend them and become apart of the 'clique', maybe you need to break free. Free yourself from the herd instinct and get away from all the bullshit and nonsense. Stop 'liking' and 'commenting' on their stupid updates. Stop sucking up to the bullies.

Surround yourself with people who uplift you, bring out the best in you, people who energize you, and ultimately those who love you. Respect yourself... you deserve it!

Cheers,
Bootsy

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